𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟? 𝐔𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲

By Anelly Aya
  The concept of the “Self” lies at the core of many spiritual and philosophical traditions. It is often described as the most fundamental aspect of our being, the true essence of who we are. However, the Self is not something we can easily grasp through our usual means of understanding, like thought, perception, or intellect. It transcends our physical, mental, and emotional experiences, yet it is ever-present and underlies all of them. In this chapter, we will explore what the Self is, how it differs from the ego or personality, and why understanding the Self is key to realizing true reality. The Self as Pure Consciousness At its essence, the Self is pure consciousness. It is the awareness that observes all experiences, but it is not limited by or attached to those experiences. It is the unchanging witness of all that arises in life—the thoughts, emotions, sensations, and perceptions we experience daily. To grasp this concept, think about a movie screen. The screen remains ...
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Silence, avoidance of communication, and reluctance to get to know someone

By Anelly Aya

 

 Silence, avoidance of communication, and reluctance to get to know someone can sometimes be a form of passive aggression. Passive aggression is a behavior in which someone expresses their anger, frustration, or negative feelings indirectly rather than confronting the issue directly.

In the case of silence and avoidance, this behavior can be a way to avoid conflict or uncomfortable situations, but it can also be a way to express disapproval or resentment towards the other person. By refusing to engage in communication or get to know someone, the passive-aggressive person may be trying to send a message that they are unhappy or dissatisfied with the relationship.

However, it's important to note that not all cases of silence or avoidance are necessarily passive-aggressive. Sometimes people simply need time and space to process their emotions or may feel too overwhelmed to engage with others. It's important to try to understand the root of the behavior before assuming that it is a form of passive aggression.

If you are experiencing this kind of behavior from someone, it may be helpful to try to have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and concerns. Communication is key to resolving conflicts and building healthy relationships.

If the person you're referring to is unwilling to communicate with you and doesn't want to talk to you, it's important to respect their boundaries and give them the space they need. While it may be difficult or hurtful, it's important to accept their decision and not force them into a conversation or relationship that they don't want.

However, if this person's behavior is causing you distress or impacting your well-being, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional. They can provide you with the support and guidance you need to navigate this situation and find ways to cope with your feelings.

It's understandable that it may not feel fair to respect someone's boundaries when it comes at a personal cost to you, especially if you were hoping for a different outcome. However, it's important to remember that everyone has the right to set boundaries in their relationships, and it's not always a reflection of how they feel about you.

While it may be difficult, accepting someone's decision to not engage in conversation with you can be an important step towards taking care of yourself. It can be emotionally exhausting and potentially harmful to continue pursuing someone who is not receptive to your communication or advances.

It's important to prioritize your own well-being and not compromise your self-respect or dignity. This may mean accepting that the relationship is not going to develop in the way you had hoped, and taking steps to move forward and focus on other areas of your life.

Remember that there are plenty of other people who may be more willing and excited to engage in conversation and get to know you. It's important to surround yourself with supportive and positive relationships that enhance your life and make you feel valued and appreciated.

It's understandable to feel discouraged or disillusioned about the possibility of finding positive relationships, particularly if you have experienced disappointment or rejection in the past. However, it's important to remember that there are many people in the world who are kind, caring, and capable of forming healthy relationships.

It's true that not everyone you meet will be a good match for you or will have the same values and priorities that you do. But it's important to keep an open mind and not let past experiences or negative thoughts prevent you from seeking out positive relationships in the future.

One way to increase the likelihood of finding positive relationships is to actively seek out opportunities to connect with others who share your interests and values. This could involve joining groups or clubs, volunteering, or attending social events. By engaging with others who have similar goals and interests, you increase your chances of finding people with whom you can form positive and supportive relationships.

It's also important to take care of yourself and practice self-care. This can involve setting healthy boundaries, managing stress and anxiety, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. By prioritizing your own well-being, you will be better equipped to form and maintain positive relationships with others.

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